I just want something to mean something to me
This gray aura is everywhere – it’s all I see
I know there has to be something still pumping my blood
But I haven’t felt it in forever, I’m stuck in the mud
Everything in life seems to be a distraction
And I’m missing out on years – due to inaction
I guess I find more purpose in people than I’d like to admit
But I’ve been burned so many times I just want to quit
I’d rather be alone than do the wrong thing
Be half the man I was, plus the baggage I’d bring
I’m spinning my wheels, I feel defeated
Help is not wanted, but I guess maybe it’s needed
My heart hasn’t skipped a beat in so long
And every night home alone just feels so wrong
I finally found something I’m truly afraid of
Growing old alone, the absence of love
I don’t want it to be what fixes me
But it would add some color to everything I see





Forgive me for meaning “til death do us part”
Forgive me for actually giving you my heart
Why is it just ok that you broke every vow?
You tell me, what am I supposed to do with myself now?
Because when two become one that’s supposed to change things
And now I’m alone in this world and have not one but two rings
You promised and signed on a line for better or worse
Then sent our marriage to the back of a hearse
Years have passed and unfortunately I’m still the same me
I’m further than ever from where I’m supposed to be
I’m still here but the future and I cannot connect
There are levels of disdain here I’m unable to project
I don’t want something else and I don’t need anyone
I mean something to the world but I hate what I’ve become
I know I should settle, but there aren’t enough reasons
I’m in the passing lane, it’s just I’m passing seasons
There is no amount of hope to set my heart straight
I learned that real is rare just a little too late
Don’t judge me until you spend a minute in my head
I’m just saying what my heart needs to be said





True friends aren’t perfect, they sure are loyal

When they have a problem with you, the pain is royal

But consistency is a gift not many will give you

And when things go down I know where to turn to

So I’m thankful for someone who knows I’m lost

And wants me around anyway, no matter the cost

I give not because I owe, but Lord knows I do

I give because I want only the best for you

I want success to follow you wherever you go

And no matter what there is something I want you to know

You’re already a guy that helps everyone around

But you’ve got more potential waiting to be found

He made you one of a kind, and after careful inspection –

Just apply yourself and you will guide souls HIS direction

With men like you, darkness doesn’t stand a chance

With God in you, it will tremble at your first glance

I remember our beginning and I’ll cherish our end

I’m just lucky to call someone like you, Friend.

JR 6/27/19

I think you’re confused…

Please tell me agents in SE MN understand the difference between NorthStar’s well regulated “coming soon” program (where no showings are allowed until the home is on the market for all buyers) and a broker having an “Exclusive Buyer Program” where only that broker’s clients see their coming soon listings for 2 weeks prior to any other buyers, right?  (Agents who understand the industry call this a “bait program”)

To be clear, not only would someone running a program like that be harming buyers that aren’t signed with them because they have to wait 2 weeks (and likely miss the opportunity to offer altogether because the broker often sells the home to their own buyers before it’s made available to the public), you’re likely harming your seller because more buyers seeing a home logically means more money for the house.  Many people can be sold on the idea of something if you’re a good salesperson.  That doesn’t mean what they’re being sold on is in their best interest.  To be a fly on the wall in those dining rooms would have been interesting, that’s for sure.

I’m not jealous, nor have I ever been jealous of anyone in my industry (I simply don’t care about comparing myself to anyone).  I have opposed certain practices based on their impact on the public that we serve.  I have opposed false advertising (like billboards being removed due to false information).  I have opposed any type of marketing that requires fine print to say the promise in the advertisement might not be accurate or come to fruition.  I have opposed working as a broker without having an active license to do so.  

I don’t miss someone in our industry that charged more and paid others doing the same job less.  I don’t miss someone that justified that behavior by saying that they do “most of the work” so that makes them worth more.  I don’t apply half truths about a few individuals to everyone in my industry to justify greed.  I don’t make former clients sign NDAs.  I don’t require those that breach a Buyer Rep agreement to post fake positive messages about me on social media to save themselves from me suing them.

There is a difference between using your gifts to further yourself at the expense of others and using your gifts to lift others up.  The day our industry becomes less about service and more about progression towards padding our pockets is the same day we become irrelevant.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but that doesn’t make anything I’ve said here less true.





A dying man laying in a hospital bed regrets things

His fingers are so skinny they won’t hold his rings

He spent many Sunday mornings alone in a pew

And now he’s surrounded by only a loyal few

The past is bittersweet as it runs through his mind

He thinks of all the times he was mean instead of kind

He travelled the world and accumulated wealth

But all of that, in this moment, doesn’t change his health

He hears the ticking of the clock on the wall

And knows that time is the most valuable thing of all

He’s run out of it and he wishes things weren’t this way

He remembers giving himself to work, day after day

He lies awake and thinks of what really mattered

And all the promises he made that were shattered

All the potential he spent on acquiring more

When giving yourself to others is what life is for

He is lost and alone in this moment that means so much

He will drift away not knowing all the lives he could touch

A lesson learned too late, a price he has to pay

Time was the real currency, he wishes he had given his away


~JR 5/24/19

Larger Than Life

Speaking as someone whom has witnessed (not necessarily practiced) this first hand, I just had to share it.

The news cycles have pushed so many celebrity deaths as major headlines in the past few years.  Nostalgia sends ratings through the roof.  A lot of content is old content, reproduced.  If it works, why fix it?  The nostalgia of a hit song or the memory of one of your favorite movies growing up makes these celebrity deaths hit closer to home than any other stranger’s demise.  Celebrities are marketed so well that they often seem larger than life.  Due to the advancement of technology, an artist’s ability to touch such a large volume of people with their art is unmatched in all of history.  Often, their art is the link that two people have to identify common ground.

Then you meet someone like Chuck Hermann.  Assistant Fire Chief, Rochester, MN.  Everyone that knew him thought the world of him.  He was funny, fun, crazy, intelligent, Godly, consistent, loving and spontaneous.  He pulled you out of whatever place you were and brought you to him.  Any time you spent with him was an experience you didn’t soon forget.  The stories, the jokes and often the calamity of a day with Chuck made everyone better.  Things may go wrong, but they can be fixed and you’re definitely going to have fun doing it.  Chuck was indeed larger than life.

Or someone like Gladys Mulholland.  You don’t have to be outgoing to be larger than life.  You don’t have to be loud to influence other people.  Gladys was a board-gaming trash talker that was more faithful than the geyser at Yellowstone National Park.  She listened vehemently.  She enjoyed thoroughly.  She prayed faithfully.  She was a woman of taste.  Her beauty oozed from the windows and doors of her beautiful home and she blessed her community with the prettiest lawn and most magnificent flower gardens.  She worshipped God on her concrete patio and with her dirty gardening hands.  You were just simply blessed to know her.  Gladys was larger than life.

So I’ve put two and two together and come up with an outline of sorts.  I’m an imperfect man that wants the best for everyone.

Be something. 

You are more than a career or a familial status.  Define yourself with your passions.  God didn’t give you gifts to keep to yourself, use them to influence the world around you.  Aim your passion at something productive and just watch a masterpiece unfold.  (And remember, masterpieces have many layers of paint under the final product)

Embrace and harness emotion.

Feel.  Don’t be afraid of what your heart is telling you.  Don’t let what you feel make your decisions, but don’t make decisions without considering how you feel.  Emotion is the color to your painting.  Some things need to be black and white, but what is a masterpiece without its color?

Have conviction.

Live so passionately that you inspire others.  Identify what you stand for and do not cease forward progress.  Don’t be afraid of what others might think, just ensure you are always seeking the one truth.

Instill self-discipline. 

Search consistently for your strengths and share them.  Life is not linear.  You have the ability to set yourself up for connection success.  Good habits are not your enemy, routines are.  Do not fall into a rut, be purposeful about what you want to accomplish without boundaries.  Apply that purpose to all things, tangible, relational and spiritual.

Leave a legacy. 

Our lives touch people, it’s inevitable.  Who we are will remain here after we are gone.  We don’t need our names in stone, we don’t need heirs and those larger than life don’t need history books.  In a world full of people doing it wrong, it’s obvious we’ll all make mistakes.  Letting those mistakes define us or change our trajectory is the fatal flaw.

Be passionate and keep going.

Amendment #2

The Second Amendment to the Constitution of the United States of America:

“A well regulated militia, being necessary to the security of a free state, the right of the people to keep and bear arms, shall not be infringed.”

You’ve probably heard of the 2nd Amendment to the Constitution.  The NRA and other groups constantly bring the Amendment into the limelight.  It’s the pillar of security to gun owners across the United States.  It ensures that nothing like Australia’s buy-back will ever happen here.  It contributed to Japan’s decision to not invade the United States in World War 2 because, as widely reported, Admiral Yamamoto declared “There would be a rifle behind every blade of grass.”

What one side of the political spectrum sees as a glaring defect to the fabric of the country, responsible gun owners see as one of their last grips to any sustainable individual power.  Common sense would have you understand that criminals don’t follow laws, therefore, gun laws limiting the ability of law abiding citizens to procure and bear firearms only makes the guns in the hands of criminals that much more powerful.  When you write new laws, only those that are willing to follow it will be affected.  Gangs, thieves and other criminals won’t turn their guns in, ever.

The fact is, American citizens have a right to keep and bear arms.  Opponents of this fact have slowly eroded away at that right on state and federal levels for decades.  But for now, law abiding citizens are allowed to purchase firearms with background checks.  Just about everything else is up for interpretation and changes on a state by state basis.

The reason I’m bringing up the 2nd Amendment surprisingly isn’t because of guns.  If you’ve read the news, the Democratic Governor of New Mexico publicly shamed a private militia group that was guarding the border (at a popular illegal crossing point) after they detained over 200 illegal immigrants and held them until Border Patrol could take over.  Governor Grisham stated, “It should go without saying that regular citizens have no authority to arrest or detain anyone.”

Personally, I’m not convinced that Governor Grisham has read the Constitution of the United States or understands the dictionary definition of ‘militia’.  The Second Amendment clearly states that citizens are allowed to form militias.  The definition of militia is “a military force that is raised from the civil population to supplement a regular army in an emergency.”  After President Trump declared a national emergency at the Southern border (to which many on both sides agree there is an emergency), it made it completely legal for a militia to detain suspected individuals that are illegally crossing the border.

The leader of this militia (The United Constitutional Patriots or UCP) was arrested by the FBI over the weekend.  Larry Hopkins is being charged with being a felon in possession of a firearm and ammunition.  If these charges are true, under federal law he should go to jail.  However, that does not mean that the UCP’s mission in New Mexico is flawed.  They are well within their rights as American citizens to form a militia and act in the country’s interest during a national emergency.  I do not endorse the beliefs or backgrounds of the men and women that are members of this militia, but I understand what they are doing to be legal.

This morning, it was reported that 5-6 Mexican army soldiers disarmed 2 American soldiers on the United States side of the border.  Mexico’s military entered our sovereign soil and disarmed 2 of our US Army soldiers.

From the Mexican governments ineptitude in handling the huge migrant caravans to their inability to deal with the growing drug trafficking and cartel growth within its borders, they have proven to be untrustworthy and uninterested in helping the United States solve the illegal immigration problem.  Why would they?  Of the estimated 11 million illegals within the borders of the United States, many earn payroll and send billions of US dollars back across the border to their families in Mexico.  This illegally obtained (illegal immigrants cannot legally work in the US) money has kept the failing Mexican economy afloat for years.  Mexico has great interest in seeing the continued flow of illegal immigration into the United States and Canada as it benefits them greatly.

As a country, we have many problems at our southern border.  A well regulated militia legally formed and legally detaining (during a national emergency) suspected illegal immigrants until Border Patrol can verify identities is not one of them.