Social media and the internet have made so many people so much louder.  Cardi B is basically teaching young girls that if you just yell louder you win the argument, regardless of merit.  The Game calls Tomi Lahren a “microwaved carrot” and somehow that means he wins the debate about 21 Savage illegally staying in the US after his work visa expired.  On the internet, adults act like children.  If you don’t agree with someone, just comment with lots of exclamation points!!!!  No need to offer any proof or facts.  Just use a stereotype you’ve heard repeated over and over.  It’s kind of like a rap battle.  My insult was better than yours, I win!

Chris Evans (Actor famous for Captain America role) is in the news stating that he “might have to cut ties” with Quarterback Tom Brady because Brady and Trump have been friends for years.  This guy is famous because he pretends to be a superhero for a living.  I feel like I shouldn’t have to say more, but I will.  Chris has called Trump a “dumb s***” and been very political on social media.  Chris, a role model to many, is teaching those that look up to him to cut ties with anyone you disagree with politically.  Has Tom Brady done something to Chris Evans that would justify ending a friendship?  No.  Who here believes this is the mature thing to do?

In America we have the First Amendment to the Constitution of the United States.  “Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof, or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.”  Here there is no law stating you can’t be an asshole.  Unfortunately, if you scream at someone on social media because you disagree with their politics, you indeed are an asshole.  If you “cut ties” with a friend because of their politics, you might be more of a “dumb s***” than the idea or person you hate.

We live in an America where it’s not surprising that a peaceful conservative activist got punched in the face at UC Berkeley.  We live in an America where colleges (a place ideas are supposed to be welcome) are blocking conservative speakers.  GCU did it this year, click here to read.  We live in an America where Don Lemon (News Anchor, CNN) speaks out against the 2nd Amendment on live television, but doesn’t know the difference between an automatic weapon and a semi-automatic weapon.  Check that out here.

In America you’re free to believe what you want and say what you want.  That doesn’t necessarily mean you should.  Sharing what you believe is encouraged.  Encroaching someone else’s free speech uninvited to scold them because you disagree is not.

I believe in an America of civility.  Where we can voice our opinions and respect each other’s differences.  I believe in an America where friendships are determined by content of character, not political views.  I believe in an America where an opposing opinion can be heard, and not heckled.

I never thought I’d say this, but I’d rather see more actual babies on social media.

More infants, less crybabies.

The Truth About Trump

Opponents of the President have seemingly exposed themselves to the remaining Americans with brain cells swimming around in our heads.  They’ve gone from 2 years of “collusion” straight to delusion.  Rachel Maddow (MSNBC), everyone’s favorite meltdown artist from Election Day 2016 (I’ll leave this here…), has doubled down on collusion.  After her vehement faith in the almost 2 year long Special Counsel led by Robert Mueller with at least 14 openly liberal prosecutors have found no collusion and no crimes committed by President, she still believes it.  At this point she’s about as objective, biased and trustworthy as Alex Jones.  Do people believe that the media is unbiased?  Is that still a thing?

Policies have not polarized America.  Policies like talk of Amnesty for the impossibly removable 11 million immigrants.  Policies like prison reform, better trade deals, eliminating bump stocks and less foreign wars have not polarized America.  The way Trump has handled illegal immigration isn’t even polarizing, Congress has been talking about building a barrier for decades, and Obama deported more illegals in his first year in office than Trump did in his.  It’s not about policies, it’s about effectiveness.  Before Trump, no one had the balls to actually do something about the problem at the border.  It was all talk, no action.  I’ll leave this video of Obama speaking on illegal immigration here.  “We all agree on the need to better secure the border.” – Barack Obama

 Policies have not polarized America.  Blind hatred has.  Hatred for an eccentric, egotistical, successful, brash, “call it how I see it” public figure.  Trump is far from perfect, but he has exposed the stupidity and blatant bias in the media.  It’s nauseating.  Trump has committed two crimes since he’s been put into office; exaggerations and sarcasm.  People who can think for themselves understand that when Trump says “I will build the wall” it doesn’t mean he’s going to go to the border and actually build it himself, he’s being magniloquent.

Some have moved on from collusion and have started their “tax return” chants.  It’s like a religion, you know… hating Trump.  These imbeciles actually think they are going to find something illegal that wouldn’t have been already referred to prosecutors by the Internal Revenue Service’s consistent annual audits of Trump’s taxes for decades.  The man has publicly stated that he has “used the tax laws to my benefit.” and that “paying less tax makes me smart.” which is something that a majority of Americans would do themselves if they had the resources and wherewithal to.

Trump isn’t stupid.  He’s not eloquent.  He’s not polished.  He’s made poor personal decisions just like everyone else.  No stupid man becomes President of the United States.  A man can only be propped up by his aides so much.  It was Trump on that stage of 17 other Republican candidates for President.  It was Trump who handled them all, in his own way.  It was Trump who made the entire auditorium laugh when Megyn Kelly was trying to pin him on being sexist.  “Only Rosie O’Donnell.”  You see, when it comes to value, Trump doesn’t see black and he doesn’t see white.  Trump doesn’t see woman and he doesn’t see man.  His perception is based on his experience with the individual.  He has called men and women all sorts of names.  Is it Presidential?  It is now.  He’s the President.  There was outcry when Trump called Kim Jong Un “Rocket Man”, then they proceeded to have the first diplomatic summit in a decade.  His methods are unique, but all too often they work.  They always have.  I don’t know many people who could turn a 1 million dollar loan into 10 billion in assets.  Something like that takes intelligence, the ability to delegate and an eye for talented people.

You can agree or disagree with Trump, that makes no difference to me.  But I can tell you with complete certainty that his intent is not to harm America in any way.  It is to strengthen our borders, help us compete internationally in influence and trade and protect our citizens from threats foreign and domestic.  He is not a Russian puppet, he is an American middle class puppet, a steel worker puppet, a coal miner puppet, and a good ‘ole boy patriot that loves America and all of its citizens.  So many have wanted to bring great change to our country, and Trump just wants America to stay America.  A place where people work, where all are treated equally and where the world knows we are nation of laws and a beacon of hope and strength in the chaos that is this world.

Trump is not the problem, hate is.
Facts are not the problem, feeling-based policies are.
Context is not the problem, bias is.




John McCain

The Maverick is gone, but with news headlines across the nation mentioning a continued feud with President Trump, you’d think he was still the Senator from Arizona.

Let’s agree to remember John as the war hero he was.  Let’s try to forget that time President Trump diminished that during the campaign – “I like people who weren’t captured.”  A stupid comeback and a gaff that hasn’t hurt him as much as it should have.

But McCain capped his career in politics (something no one should be proud of) with a decisive vote against killing Obamacare’s individual mandate (which despite SCOTUS’ interpretation as a “tax”, is obviously an infringement on our freedoms).


He played poker on his phone while lawmakers were debating Syria strategies, then laughed it off on national news.  Everyday Americans understand that as something we would lose our jobs over.


Just a few short months after posing with Syrian rebels he had just helped broker an arms deal with, might I add.  A questionable alliance with people who had mutual interests with Al Qaeda (the group responsible for 9/11).


He was so blinded by his hate for Trump (like so many others) that he was the perfect mark for Democratic operatives to use as a patsy to push fake intel to the FBI.  It wouldn’t have been taken seriously if it came from a Democrat.


He voted against the Bush tax cuts.  He seemed to often side with the government taking and keeping more of your money.  He brought a conservative icon, Sarah Palin, to the limelight in order to procure the Evangelical base, then trashed her and blamed her for his Presidential Campaign loss in 2008.  He was a poor loser.  I think the loss had more to do with his disconnection from the reality of everyday Americans.  Everyday Americans know how many houses we own. Click here to hear him struggle to remember how many houses he owned.  Maybe that’s why he thought the government deserves to take and keep more of our money – because he was so wealthy it made no difference to him.

He championed legislation with Ted Kennedy (D – Massachusetts) which started the conversation about providing illegal immigrants with a path to citizenship.  Something that someone who breaks our immigration laws should never have.  Currently there are an estimated 11 million illegal immigrants residing in the United States.  That’s literally like someone stealing a bike and then instead of punishing them, you just give them the bike.  11 million times.  And how do you explain it to the millions of people that worked hard and spent years saving up to buy the bike?  Rewarding illegal behavior is a dangerous precedent.  America is a nation of immigrants, that’s correct.  Legal ones.  The rest are not a part of our nation, they are by definition criminals that do not belong here.

John’s daughter, Meghan McCain has continued his feud with President Trump.  She recently said Trump was jealous of her father’s family.  Which makes very little sense since Trump has healthy, intelligent kids that are loyal and come to his defense often.  She has called him bizarre, low and pathetic.  I understand her need to defend a father that cannot defend himself, but with a track record like John McCain’s, she’s not doing herself any favors.

The Maverick will soon fade from the headlines once again.  He won’t be remembered for his service to our country and defiance as a POW.  He’ll be remembered as a little man, a lifelong politician that was out of touch with the citizens of his country, entitled to special treatment and so blinded by his disdain for our President that he harmed the Republic he claimed to love.  A waffling representative of his constituents.  Hardly a conservative.  History will not be gentle.  His service to our country should be celebrated, but the man himself, not so much.




Here’s the second blog in my series of people in my life worth writing about – hope you like it.

Lea Lancaster.  My co-worker and friend.

She’s the epitome of what it means to be genuine.  God made her with an inability to be fake.  She is passionate about her kids, her career and wine (I sometimes tease her about the latter).  Every problem she has ever had is because she cares so much.  She is such a great mom to her kids – they have no idea how good they really have it.  When she talks about her husband, Will, her eyes sparkle.  It sounds cheesy, but she really likes him – even on bad days, I can tell. 🙂

She is sweeter than anyone I know, but you better not mess with her family if you want to live (it makes sense if you know her).  I also kinda think at some point in her life she’ll need to be bailed out of jail (and the reason will epic).  She’s the kind of person you make memories with – every day is an adventure.

She never does anything to hurt anyone on purpose.  Sometimes, when people hurt her feelings, she gets angry.  But she always lets herself calm down before she makes things right.  She is self aware – she has made a point to be considerate of others at all times.  She knows when she’s having a bad day and she warns you.  She can’t help but smile at herself after she rants for a few minutes.

She’s professional, fun and loyal.  She’s an amazing Realtor.  She answers every call.  Puts out every fire.  Cares about every client, closes every deal.  She’s aware of how her clients are feeling, what they are thinking and what she can do to make the whole process go better for them.

She’s the kind of person that is always smiling.  Ready to laugh.  She sees the good in things.  Even when she’s upset, she finds a way to laugh at herself.

Everywhere she goes she makes better.  She lights up every room she’s in.

Happy Birthday, Lea (Forever 29, if  you’re wondering).  You’re the best co-worker I’ve ever had, a better friend than anyone could ask for and an exceptional human being.





I’ve got lots to say, but no good way to say it.  I’m past worrying about disappointing anyone.  Like I’ve said before, you can care about people and ultimately not care if they disagree with you.  Political people need to learn this as soon as possible.

Wisdom isn’t always knowing what you should do, sometimes it’s understanding what you shouldn’t.

For instance, I’m smart enough to know I shouldn’t be in a relationship with anyone.  Not fair to me, not fair to them.  It’s not about being “ready”, it’s about being “true”.  I’ve got enough fake in my life without that.  I don’t want to participate in today’s dating process.  It’s just not for me, never will be.  I’d rather be alone than be with someone that doesn’t know what they want and it changes with each breath.

Knowing that doesn’t make being alone any easier. Sometimes I close my eyes for long enough while I’m awake that the last couple of years didn’t happen. You know, that moment when you get deja vu for a second and then it’s gone as quickly as it came. Redemption is as close as a heart change away.

What an absolute travesty this has been. It’s amazing how when a major piece of the puzzle goes missing, you can hardly tell what was there in the first place.

We live in a world where “How are you?” isn’t a question, it’s a greeting. I’ll never get over it. People really don’t want to know how you are, trust me.

And honestly, I’m sick of the optimists. You know, those people who nonchalantly skip into your life and say “It will all get better” without really knowing you, what you stand for or what you feel? Let’s get real. It might not be as sharp but there is no guarantee that means it’ll get better.

How many of you have heard it?  “Happiness comes from within.”


People say stupid things when they’re trying to be profound. “You should smile more.”  Yeah, well maybe you should talk less?  You don’t know what I’m still going through. I’m sick of retail smiles and cliche phrases.  I’m not gonna smile just to do it.  That’s fake.  I’ve got enough fake in my life.  People befriend you with agendas nowadays, don’t you know?  The second you don’t agree on something, poof, the facade is over.

Happiness isn’t something I’m trying to find.  Consistency is.  You can be consistently anything, and I’ll be impressed.  Socially, I’m surrounded by fake.  Just float through life with no true commitment.  Nobody has any conviction anymore. “Just do whatever you feel” isn’t really gonna make things work.

Diagnose me all you want, but when I’ve given everything I have to something and it’s gone I’m not interested in doing it again. I’m not interested in this charade we all go through on the daily, either. I cannot for the life of me find a reason to persist. At this point it’s all just something to do.

I’m disconnected by fate and by choice.

I’m disconnected because it’s weird to tell people you care about them. I’m disconnected because doing nice things for others without an agenda doesn’t compute to people. I’m disconnected because everyone I’ve ever been close to has taken advantage of me.

I’m constantly being read by people that don’t speak my language.

There is no reward worth pursuing with risks like these.

So at some point you have to weigh what you really want from life, right? Well I’ve known for a few years, and now that’s out of the picture. I don’t want to 8-5 it until I’m gray (and that’s starting) unless there is a reason beyond self sufficiency.

I’d rather do it right and fail than do it wrong and tell myself I succeeded.

I don’t want to rewind, I just want something to happen. Anything, really. Until then, I’ll just be happy that I understand the silence.


Racism is alive and well in America.  From White Nationalist rallies in the Carolinas to race-baiters across the country, we’re at each other’s throats over the difference of the shade of brown in our epidermis.  We have enough racism without murderers in Dodge Challengers running over black people.  We have enough racism without Jussie Smollett making stuff up to try to start a race war.  We have enough racism without Facebook Live beatings of special needs white kids.

I understand when a black person tells me they despise the fact that in our country’s history, their ancestors were slaves.  I understand when a white person says they despise being judged for something they weren’t a part of.

But blaming someone you don’t know for something you’ve never seen them show is just as wrong.  Labeling a group of people by their status or appearance is wrong.  Judging a group by the color of their skin is racist.  It doesn’t matter what color the group is that you are judging.  

One automatically forms opinions of people they meet.  I form my opinion of people based on how they treat me.  On how they behave.  On what they stand for (or don’t).

We have a culture problem.  Sex feels good and if we can make it convenient, why not, right?  Nevermind the consequences of social sexuality.  Like single mothers and a generation plagued by kids with no father figure.  It all leads to the decay of the family unit.  What many are missing is a responsible father’s guiding hand and a mother focused on actively showing love to her kids instead of surviving because she’s raising them alone.

I personally wish we could all just be Americans.  There is enough evil in this world outside our borders.  We don’t need to be divided over race here at home.  We have the Governor of Virginia rallying for the option to abort a baby after it’s been born.  A state where 56% of aborted babies’ race is a minority.  We should all value life for what it is.  We should treat it here the same way NASA would treat it if they found it on Mars.  You do realize that if they found a single living cell on Mars, the headlines of every newspaper in the U.S. would read “Life on Mars”?  But if your baby doesn’t die during its partial-birth abortion in Illinois, they can legally set it on a shelf until it dies.

We’re more worried about the feelings of people in society with gender dysphoria.  Instead of getting people help, we pander to their delusion.  A charm offensive to the mentally ill doesn’t cure their illness.  It is more compassionate to help someone deal with their mental illness than to pretend it’s normal.  Tough love is always better than being sensitive to someone while they self destruct.

We live in a country where the media makes Vice President Mike Pence into a lunatic for not eating lunch alone with another woman (without his wife) and celebrates Gillette advertising that men constantly cat-call or belittle poor behavior towards women.

We live in a country where homosexuals were making videos of themselves shaking after the election saying they feared for their lives and their families while the current Administration is seeking civil rights for gays in countries where you are executed for being homosexual.

We live in a country where well behaved teenage kids are targeted by the media for standing their ground while some wore red hats while being approached by a communist native-american banging a drum and racially heckled by a group of “Black Israelites”.

If we as a country don’t start thinking for ourselves instead of letting the media do it for us, we’re gonna get exactly what they are falsely reporting.  Division.





Let’s talk about it.

There is a difference between legal immigration and illegal immigration.  Legal immigrants go through a long process to be granted either temporary or permanent residence in the United States.  Illegal immigrants either outstay those temporary statuses, or skip the process altogether and cross the border illegally.

Because much of this issue encompasses our southern border, it’s labeled “racist” if you believe our federal laws should be followed.  You’re racist for saying some of these people are drug dealers and killers (which they are).  If I’m 100% ok with anyone, in any quantity, coming into our country LEGALLY, then how am I racist if I say no one should come in illegally?  There is no equation that makes this ok.  If you told me we could have 1000 tax-paying, productive illegal immigrants for every 1 Cristhian Bahena Rivera (Mollie Tibbets killer), I’d say no thanks.

The Washington Post came out with an article that basically stated that native born citizens commit more crimes than undocumented (illegal) immigrants.

They posted two studies to support their notion.  First of all, there is no debate that the very first thing an undocumented immigrant does in the United States is commit a crime.  It’s illegal to cross our border into the United States without our government’s permission to do so.  Therefore, overall, undocumented immigrants commit an astronomically higher amount of crime than native born citizens do.  Secondly, one of the studies states that undocumented immigrants commit less violent crime than native born citizens.  The statistics behind this are that in areas with higher levels of undocumented immigrants, violent crime overall has been decreasing.  I’m sure there are a number of other factors that contribute to this, not just the presence of illegals in these communities.  The Washington Post uses this fact as an excuse to support the notion that illegal immigration is harmless.  If a non-citizen is less likely to commit a violent crime than a citizen, that still doesn’t give him/her some magical right to be here.  Even if there was a way to truly, statistically prove that illegal immigrants commit less violent crimes than natural born citizens, it still means that there are more violent crimes because they are here.

The flaw in their logic is that these people shouldn’t be here in the first place.  They have a flawed moral compass to break another country’s law and enter illegally. Fundamentally, without them here, there would be less crime.

The case for compassion.  Some would have you believe the ONLY way we can show compassion to these people that are here illegally is to allow them to stay, or to let new ones cross the border illegally.  That is simply false.  From foreign aid to changes in foreign policy, there are many ways the United States can help the people of the world without letting them illegally into our country.

Beyond this, 63% of households headed by a non-citizen reported that they use at least one welfare program, compared to 35% among native-headed households.  (Center for Immigration Studies)

So we’ve factually deduced that illegal immigrants as a whole:

  1. Commit a crime by crossing the border illegally.
  2. Some commit more crimes, including those of violent nature
  3. Are almost twice as likely to use welfare than natural-born citizens

The media stays on task with propaganda that ignores facts and plays to one’s emotions.  You can’t run a country on emotions.

We are a nation of laws, and regardless of color or creed, if you’re breaking our immigration laws, you shouldn’t be here.